I’m a 27 year old serial dater! For most in the millennial dating era, this isn’t a bad thing, but for me it is! I’m tired of just dating to date. I want to date with the purpose of finding Mr.Right.
But how? I’ve gotten so use to just dating for fun that I don’t know to go about figuring out if the person could be my husband-to be.
I’m seriously thinking of investing in a relationship coach. Help!
Hey Girl, Hey!
Well first off, let me clear something up. I’m not a dating expert nor a relationship coach. I’m a realist just sharing my opinion based on what I’ve gone through, witnessed, and what’s just common sense [half of the time].
But based on what you’ve told me it’s pretty clear that you don’t know what you want. Like you said, you’ve been dating for fun instead of with purpose for so long that you’ve lost sight if what the goal was….. or maybe you didn’t.
Maybe there wasn’t an initial goal, and now things have changed.
I’d advise you to get clear on what you want. What does your ideal man look like? His career? His personality? His faith? Does he have children? etc…. I know most don’t like list, but I’m a firm believer in a good list.
Make a list for him and one of your own. Why? Because you can’t expect your man to make thousands per year yet you have no income. You can’t expect him to have a car and a house, yet your driving you dads car and living in your sisters basement. Things need to align in some way! And if it’s not, then you need to work on yourself first before you jump back into dating.
Everything you do from this point forward should be done strategically and with purpose!
Once you figure out who you are, what makes you happy, and what your seeking in a partner; then you’ll begin dating with purpose. It’ll be easier to eliminate those who don’t fit what your looking for. But to me, right now you don’t know what any of that is…..
My advice, GET CLEAR.
Hopefully this helps!