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Last week, during an appearance on Andy Cohen’s “Watch What Happens LIVE,” Queen Patti [who had a long-time relationship with the late Luther Vandross] told the world that he was “gay.” And according to Patti, Luther never said anything because he didn’t want to disappoint his fans and his mother.
Patti had the following to say:
“He had a lot of lady fans and he told me he just didn’t want to upset the world. Basically, he did not want his mother to be— although she might have known, but he wasn’t going to come out and say this to the world.”
There were celebs like Marsha Warfield, who agreed with Patti, saying that she personally waited until after her mother passed to come out publicly. While on the contrary, celebs like Wendy Williams say that Patti completely violated the ‘friend-code.’
“When I told my mother I was gay, she said she knew, and had known all my life.
Then, she asked me not to come out publicly while she was alive.
I agreed, even though the request and her admission were hurtful in ways I couldn’t put my finger on then, and probably haven’t completely worked through now.
But, everybody who knew me, knew I was gay.
The people I didn’t tell knew anyway, and tacitly agreed to pretend that the unacknowledged had been acknowledged and accepted.
Like I’m sure is true for millions of other glass door closeted people.
When I went to bars, which was frequently, I never tried to hide who I was.
So, it was an open secret.
Had I never come out publicly, many, many people would have known.
It would not then have ever really been a betrayal of trust to “spill the beans.”
Because it wasn’t a secret, it was an uncomfortably kept promise to my mother.
But, it was also not the only reason I didn’t come out swinging when she passed.
The fear of the judgment of strangers and their holier-than-thou “shoulds” was at least as big of a burden to bear.
But the “shoulds” that “should” matter don’t.
Nobody should have to hide their sexuality.
No parent should ask their child to.
There should be no shame in being gay.
And, I ain’t mad at Patti LaBelle.
I’m mad at the people who are.”
Wendy had the following to say during her shows “Hot Topics” segment.
[Check out the clip above]
“She should have said, ‘no comment’. If he had ask me something like that— then it’s okay for me to talk about it. I didn’t know Luther Vandross. He wasn’t my friend. But, it’s not okay to talk about it when it’s your best friend. You know? It’s like a violation.”